Steps to Success - Get Your Driver in Gear

So this guy gets into a taxi. The driver says, “where to?”
The guy replies, “I have this rough idea where I want to go, not exactly sure where it is or how to get there… but it’s definitely not Old Street or Been-There Lane. And can you step on it please, I’m expecting to be there yesterday!”
Where does the driver take him?  Round and round in circles perhaps… but probably nowhere.

Last week I highlighted how using negatives and focusing on what we don’t want often just brings us more of that very thing. The other downfall of resolutions like: ‘avoid chocolate’, ‘be less stressed at work’ or even ‘find a new job’ is that the objectives are too nebulous and vague.  Basically we’re giving our subconscious directions like that guy in the cab… it’s really no wonder if we’re not getting anywhere.

So how do we get our drivers to take us where we want to go?

We give good directions – we set good goals! There are some rules for good goal setting – rules that, when followed, will increase the likelihood that you will see your goals through to completion because your subconscious driver will be working hard to get you there.

Firstly, you have to know where it is you’re going. Last week I invited you to start thinking about what it is you really want.  What do you want to be doing, having or being?  With this in mind, create for yourself an End Goal.  This is your ultimate aim; what you want to achieve and when you want to achieve it by, whether that’s sometime this year or in 5 years time, or by the time you’re 94 years old… whatever fits. This goal is how everything will be when this area of your life just as you’d like it. 
Next make sure that your goals are SMART and PURE – this is like giving your cab driver the GPS coordinates of where you’re headed.

SMART Goals

Specific – Make your goal as detailed as you can. Envisage exactly how it will be when this goal is accomplished.  E.g. if it’s a goal about weight, how much to you want to weigh? What clothing size will you be wearing when you’ve achieved it? If you have a goal around saving money - how much money exactly?

Measurable – How will you know when you’ve achieved your goal – what is the measure of your success?  What will you be doing, seeing, hearing, feeling when you’ve accomplished it?

Actions – Break your goal down into action steps that you can start to take almost immediately (we’ll be covering this next week!) Tony Robbins says never leave the site of setting a goal before you’ve taken at least one action (no matter how small) towards achieving it.

Realistic – this doesn’t mean easy. In fact you need your goals to be challenging to inspire you to do them. Realistic means that you are giving yourself enough time and breaking the goal down into manageable enough chunks so that you will be able to follow through in the time you’ve set yourself.

Timed – when you set a deadline for your goals, you are grounding them in your reality. Put them in your calendar/diary! That will make it real for you. By June 30th, 2012 I will be…, By Friday next week I will be…

PURE Goals

Positive  - when your goal is stated in the positive, it means the subconscious is focusing on what you WANT, not what you don’t. Instead of quitting, stopping, losing, not… etc. spin it around. If you’re having trouble seeing it, ask yourself: what is the opposite of the undesirable thing I have now? E.g. to be healthy/fit/saving money etc.

Up to you – we can only set goals for ourselves and that are within our control. There is no point setting a goal that your husband will pick up his dirty socks, or that you will win the lottery (not suggesting the odds are as likely) but neither of these things are within your control. You can only control and take responsibility for your own actions, through which you will achieve what your outcome.

Recorded – VERY important. You must write your goals down! Brian Tracey says the mere act of writing down your goals, taking that one small action to get them out of your head and root them in the physical world will get the ball rolling towards achieving them. This is the first place to start. Write down all your goals. Then look at them, often! Keep reminding your subconscious of what you want it to achieve for you.

Ethical & Ecological – not just ‘earth friendly’ (hopefully this too). We each operate within a system (family/friends/colleagues etc) - consider the impact of your goal on the people around you and keep in mind that your goal is part of you as a complete person. How will attaining this goal affect the rest of your life?

When your goals are SMART and PURE, your driver will know exactly where you’re headed, by when and even what it’s going to look like when you get there. You are well on your way… Next we just need to make sure he has a map!!

It’s not realistic to think you can just jump there, there’s a route to take.  Those are the actions, step by step towards where you want to be. Next week we’ll be looking at that map, how to get you from here to there, whilst enjoying the ride along the way!

Read this article in The Royal Gazette